There is a third wheel in our relationship. It’s not a
person. Although sometimes it seems like it has a life of its own. Sometimes B
gets jealous of it. Sometimes I pay more attention to it than I do him.
I bet you have a third wheel, too. (Hint: you’re reading it
right now)
It’s the blog.
B lovingly refers to the blog as ‘Blog’. As if it were a
person and its name was Blog. Most of the time when B speaks of Blog, it is in
this context:
“Maybe I would have told you if weren’t spending so much
time with Blog.”
“When are you going to be done with Blog so we can watch How
I Met Your Mother?”
“If you are going to work on Blog, I am going to go play
video games!”
“Would you be happier if I left and you could be alone with
Blog!!??”
Okay, he didn’t say that last one. But it does kind of
sounds like I am cheating on him, doesn’t it?
I have offered multiple times to cut back or quit blogging
completely if it would make him happier, but he knows that blogging make me
happy, most of the time. And more than anything it is a creative outlet. I
would probably be baking, crafting, and shopping just as much without the blog.
But instead of telling you all about it, I would be telling him about it. And let’s
face it, he’s not that interested.
Maybe I haven’t quite mastered the art of balancing blogging
with the rest of my life. I don’t really know if that is possible, since the
blog is about my life.
Every time I whip out my phone to take a picture of
something, B is quick to remind me that, “…studies show that you take pictures
of what you love. How many pictures of me have you taken?”
I definitely never intended this little blog to become a
third wheel. I guess I didn’t really understand how much work it is if you want
to post something 5 days a week. I commend all of you bloggers who post
multiple times per day every day. I don’t know how you do it.
I do know that he is proud of me and this little blog,
though. Other than being jealous of the time I spend on the blog instead of
with him, he is completely supportive. He took pictures of me for an outfit
post a couple weeks ago, and at first he was reluctant because it meant leaving
the couch, but once he started taking pictures, he got really into it.
For those of you that feel like you have a good balance
between your blog life and your real life, how do you do it? Does your
significant other gripe about your blog?
I'm the SAME way. I struggle to find a balance, and throw my Bubba into the mix and my time is even thinner. I'm still working on it but my blog is my baby too; it's my full time job and one of the biggest things keeping me busy and happy while I'm hold all day.
ReplyDeleteNot to mention the friendships I've made; I have better bloggy friends than real life friends.
Glad I'm not the only one haha
I love how you compared it to a 3rd wheel. We definitely have struggled with Blog getting in the way of our relationship. Here's what I do and it works a lot better for us. I write posts and schedule them on the weekend. This works for us because my husband is busy sleeping, working on his school work, or doing one of his hobbies while I write and schedule my blog posts for the week. During the week, I come home, check my email, read, and comment on posts while I unwind for the day. Then, I try to leave it alone for the rest of the night. I try to respond to emails on Wednesdays (when my husband is at work) or on weekends. I don't always do this perfectly, but I did cut back on my actual blogging which gives me not as much work to do. It's working better for us, but I think each person has to look at what works best for their life and their schedule.
ReplyDeleteThere is no way I could ever post more than once a day.
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I agree with the third wheel being a blog. There is no way I can post more than once a day or spend a long time reading other blogs. My husbands jokes around about how he is jealous of all the time my blog gets.
ReplyDeleteOMG this was such a great post! My hubby is surprisingly supportive too but there have totally been times he feels like a "third wheel" and lets me know it! It is just so fun reading everyone's stories and connecting with girls who share similar experiences. It's super hard to find a balance. But I figure I could be baking…which is not good for my waist line or shopping…which is not good for my wallet. lol
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